As a 50 something, I was enjoying the invisibility. While I think it's great that we are being represented on the screen, I can't help thinking, cynically, that it's just another way of telling us that we need to be hotter, sexier, that our lives are over if we're not having all the kinky sex. I know we're all different but I kinda like being ignored.
This movie frustrated me as well, and afterward while using the ladies room, the ladies were chiming in from the stall about these same frustrations. So here we are peeing, not able to seeing one another after the shared experience of watching this movie, and all kinda saying the same thing. I wasn't a fan of Babygirl; I was hoping it would do more. I was annoyed that Sam always seemed to just show up out of the blue (swimming in the pool, wtf?), and how Banderas' character learns how to please Kidman. C'mon. It's stickier and trickier than that, but Hollywood wants a pretty bow at the end.
ah ha. reading again I thought you had written this quote (the problem with reading too fast) "feels like the start of the next great chapter for erotic dramas in its openness to center a story on a woman, over 40, not shying from the messy and humorous parts of sex, while also being so damn honest about how brave it can be to fall in love with every side of yourself and your desires.” WRONG. It's a damn interesting movie for us all to be discussing so much - women's sexuality over 50. Even if we disagree. We're talking about it! Finally.
No, that was the writer I cited from Marie Claire. This kind of thing is the fruit of covering something you haven't experienced. Yes, we're all talking about it but how we talk about it is important, too.
Sounds like Claire Denis, Joanna Hogg, and François Ozon have all made oh-so-much better versions of this film and its central character’s process of returning to erotic self-awareness - but I guess I have to see it first. Maybe.
I will be pondering “dickmatized” for quite some time. Stigmas are all too real and muthafckahs.
It also occurred to me in reading this that toxic masculinity & racism have some connection too complicated for me to articulately untangle. I’ve never tolerated either at all. Despite that I feel guilt by (gender) association. And as a rule I don’t do guilt.
Thanks so much for reading this! I agree. I could speak to the culture of the 80s-now and how women put up with so much shit (we will sometime talk about the music biz of it all!) and how that shaped us, but racism is layered so thickly on top of it as well.
As a 50 something, I was enjoying the invisibility. While I think it's great that we are being represented on the screen, I can't help thinking, cynically, that it's just another way of telling us that we need to be hotter, sexier, that our lives are over if we're not having all the kinky sex. I know we're all different but I kinda like being ignored.
I totally get that!
This movie frustrated me as well, and afterward while using the ladies room, the ladies were chiming in from the stall about these same frustrations. So here we are peeing, not able to seeing one another after the shared experience of watching this movie, and all kinda saying the same thing. I wasn't a fan of Babygirl; I was hoping it would do more. I was annoyed that Sam always seemed to just show up out of the blue (swimming in the pool, wtf?), and how Banderas' character learns how to please Kidman. C'mon. It's stickier and trickier than that, but Hollywood wants a pretty bow at the end.
Yes indeed, it does! I found the ending hard to believe.
Girl, preach. I was shaking my head during that scene.
ah ha. reading again I thought you had written this quote (the problem with reading too fast) "feels like the start of the next great chapter for erotic dramas in its openness to center a story on a woman, over 40, not shying from the messy and humorous parts of sex, while also being so damn honest about how brave it can be to fall in love with every side of yourself and your desires.” WRONG. It's a damn interesting movie for us all to be discussing so much - women's sexuality over 50. Even if we disagree. We're talking about it! Finally.
No, that was the writer I cited from Marie Claire. This kind of thing is the fruit of covering something you haven't experienced. Yes, we're all talking about it but how we talk about it is important, too.
And different opinions of what she goes through. I liked the wake up call. FINALLY. love your writing as always
This was a great piece!
Why, thank you so much!
Sounds like Claire Denis, Joanna Hogg, and François Ozon have all made oh-so-much better versions of this film and its central character’s process of returning to erotic self-awareness - but I guess I have to see it first. Maybe.
Indeed! If you're on the fence, maybe stream it when it's easy to see.
I will be pondering “dickmatized” for quite some time. Stigmas are all too real and muthafckahs.
It also occurred to me in reading this that toxic masculinity & racism have some connection too complicated for me to articulately untangle. I’ve never tolerated either at all. Despite that I feel guilt by (gender) association. And as a rule I don’t do guilt.
Thanks so much for reading this! I agree. I could speak to the culture of the 80s-now and how women put up with so much shit (we will sometime talk about the music biz of it all!) and how that shaped us, but racism is layered so thickly on top of it as well.
Just wrote about it. We are psychic twins.
We are!